In 2019 you should be selfish (and why that's a good thing)
Updated: Dec 31, 2018
In a recent conversation with a friend, the concept of selfish and selfless came up.
Why is it that the word selfish has been given a negative connotation? We often help others, but when our Inner Child asks for help, we hesitate because it might be perceived as selfish, and we're taught we shouldn't be selfish.
Why is it that helping others is seen as a desirable trait, yet when our own selves need the help, we push it to the side and treat it as an afterthought?
What would it look like, if we made a conscious decision to put our SELF first? Are SELFish and SELFless two mutually exclusive notions?
I would invite you for a moment to imagine that they aren't.
You see, by giving yourself permission to be SELFish, you empower yourself to be the best you can be.
And when are you able to help others most?
Is it when you're down, broken and full of fear?
Or when you're happy, thriving and at your full potential?
And if it's the latter, doesn't that mean we first need to be SELFish in order to be able to be SELFless? By giving more to ourselves, we enable ourselves to give more to others.
So in 2019, I would invite you to be a little bit more selfish.
For your family's sake. For your partner's sake. For your friend's sake. For your work.
For everything that's meaningful to you.
My friend, as a conclusion, suggested we redefine the two concepts. After all, we don't need two different words to define selfish and selfless. Let's just call it SELF. Because if the self is taken care off, everything else will look after itself.
As Oscar Wilde said in a famous quote: "Be yourSELF. Everyone else is taken."